Boundaries are rules we impose upon others. We feel uncomfortable or unwilling to share certain things or aspects of ourselves and seek to help reduce our exposure by clearly informing others. Again clearly telling others establishes boundaries. When we don't clarify our boundaries, we are quick to fly off the handle as we make everything into an injustice. A crime has been committed, and someone must be held responsible and face the wrath. How quickly our feelings get sept within our ego. No offense or injustice has been committed if you haven't created boundaries that have meaning for your way of living. There is a difference between others infringing on your boundaries or totally disregarding your boundaries post-discussion. Don't make everything into an attack on your being if you haven't processed why the boundary is crucial for you and if you took the time to inform others. Remove the ego. Think about life and what actually matters. Create healthy boundaries. Let others know, but don't force your way onto others. You also have a choice about who you interact with and on what level.
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