Removing Judgment

I've realized and appreciated meeting people not by chance but with purpose. Two people in the same place at the same time are no coincidence if we open our eyes, expand our minds, and let our hearts lead. There are lessons to be learned and growth that can occur if we accept rather than reject. We reject others who don't fit our mold, as we are quick to judge based on how one appears. Yet we haven't spoken one word to them, but we have already formed a storyline. Each person we encounter, we judge. Quick judgments lack heart, often lacking compassion for humanity.

We make assumptions based on clothing too much, too little, too tight, too short, too long, too old, too raggedy, not clean, not appropriate, not up to date, or in need of a makeover. We judge hairstyles as too long, too short, not kept wild, not fit for their face, not the right color, or in need of a hairstylist. We judge skin color as too dark, too light, skin texture too bumpy, too dry, too oily, not bright, too patchy, or too many scars. We judge the method of transportation. The car is exotic, so it must be prosperous; it is dented and missing parts; they must be poor; why is the vehicle allowed to be on the road as it's a piece of junk? Who would drive a car that color, and so on? We judge if someone is waiting for the bus, riding a bicycle, walking, running, standing, or sitting. Have you ever thought about why someone is sitting there? Why are they standing there? Who are they waiting or looking for? What are they up to, and what are they doing? These are just a few ways in which we judge.

We all judge, yet some have more control to refocus and adjust once the judgments start. While others judge out of habit. When we get so consumed in judging, we neglect to realize most judgments reflect what we think about ourselves, our insecurities, and our need to feel validated. We may wish we had the courage or self-esteem to live outside our norms and expectations. We may long to be who we are and not prioritize fitting in with the consensus. We may long to be free and be who we desire, with little regard for others' opinions. Maybe we could focus more on our inner growth and reflect positivity into the world instead of unfavorable assumption-based verdicts. Perhaps we can practice and normalize self-acceptance, self-love, and self-worth. As we can judge less as we work inwards to radiate outwards what the world could use more of, love.

Peace, Joy, Love & Light

Saleema

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